Everyone is a person. The blogs you follow. The shy anon. The hateful anon. The BNF. The gossiper. The fanfic writer. The fanartist. The lurker. The poet. The social justice fighter. Even the brony. All of them, all of us…we’re people. Individuals, no matter what groups we might or might not belong to.
And each of us has our own experience of life and all it contains: happiness, sadness, pain, anger, humor. And none of us has a right to assume we have authority over or even a basic knowledge of anyone else’s experience just because of our own. People are people, human beings, with their own little worlds that interconnect in millions of little ways. So yes, we can be part of a group, but no matter if I’m any race or any sexuality or any gender or any anything, I am my own person, and my own individual with my own experiences and my own life.
And that deserves respect. By all means call out harmful views and behaviors and interactions. But I think every single one of those things could boil down to the fact that we stop remembering that people are people with their own right to experience.
i’ve been thinking about all those posts about “we need female heroes who do girly things”/”why is the female hero always such a tomboy” and then the response posts that are like “uhhh actually we don’t really have any really masculine female heroes either” so i was trying to figure it out—what do we have, exactly?
and really what we get is women who eschew “girly” things while still managing to look like society’s ideal woman. they would never touch eyeliner (they’re too busy with Important Things), but their eyeliner is immaculate. they have a huge, varied wardrobe, but wouldn’t be caught dead actually shopping for clothes. and it reminds me of the expectation that women must be effortlessly beautiful. don’t wear makeup or you’ll seem self-absorbed—but god forbid you look like you’re not wearing makeup. it’s interesting to me, that the impossibilities imposed on female characters are the same ones imposed on real women.